A eulogy for your sister

Help writing a eulogy for your sister.

A eulogy for your sister usually runs three to five minutes, around 400 to 700 words. Siblings share memories no one else holds, so many good tributes start with something from childhood and then move to the woman she became. Tell us about her in your own words and we'll help you turn it into a speech you can read.

Who are you writing for?

Free to start · your answers save as you go · read the opening before you decide

Speaking about a sister

Whether she was older, younger or your twin, you've known her in ways her friends and colleagues haven't: the shared bedroom, the borrowed clothes, the secrets, the late-night phone calls as adults. Bring one of those moments into the room, then show the people there who she was to everyone else.

Questions that help you remember her

What's a memory from childhood that sums her up?
What did she always do that drove you mad, and that you'd give anything to see again?
Who did she look after?
What was she brave about?
What did she love: places, music, people, work?

A simple shape

Introduce yourself and say a line about your relationship.
Tell a childhood story, then one from adult life.
Say what she gave to her family, friends and community.
Close with a direct word to her.

If other siblings want to speak, you could split the eulogy into short sections, each telling one story. Agree beforehand who covers what, so the stories don't overlap, and keep the total to about five to eight minutes.

How it works

Three quiet steps

Tell us about her

A few gentle questions, one at a time. Leave anything blank. Your answers save as you go, so you can stop and come back.

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Read how it begins

We prepare it in two voices, warm and personal or calm and composed, and show you the opening.

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Keep it if it feels right

Download it as PDF or Word, with a large-print copy for reading aloud. Ask for changes for seven days.

Questions

How do I capture a whole shared life in a few minutes?

Don't try to cover it all. Choose one or two moments only the two of you would know, and one thing everyone in the room would recognise.

Can I include family and friends' memories?

Yes. Ask one or two people for a single memory and add it in the form; the eulogy can name who shared it.

What if I can't get through it on the day?

You'll get a large-print reading copy with marked pauses. It's fine to pause, or to ask someone to step in.

Do I pay before I see anything?

No. You read the opening first, and only pay if it feels right. Refunds are available for 7 days, no questions asked.

Take your time. We'll be here when you're ready.